Three Simple Things You Can Do To Foster Accountability In The Workplace
By Diane Ring
There is a topic that resurfaces over and over again with leaders I coach that deserves a few basic reminders. The topic is how to foster a culture of accountability.
NO ONE SAID LEADERSHIP WAS EASY.
Even the most effective leaders find themselves very uncomfortable when they have to confront an employee about their underperformance. That’s why accountability and leadership go hand-in-hand. Knowing you have to tell someone they are not meeting your expectations can be a very daunting message to deliver, for many reasons. It stirs up past memories when we were criticized or given feedback in a negative way. For some leaders, accountability conversations activate a conflict aversion personality pattern because we know it can be very difficult to hear that we are not doing a good job. We are often to the point of anger or frustration when things have gone poorly for a while and it’s tough to hold that in and be diplomatic with the delivery.
So here are 3 uncomfortable ways that will make you more successful at holding employees accountable.
- TANGLE WITH YOUR DISCOMFORT. GET CLEAR.
One CEO recently shared with me that she was facing the need to have a conversation with an employee who has chronically missed deadlines, and was dreading the discussion so much that she put it off to the point that now she now had a series of missed deadlines to address with this employee. The longer she put it off, the bigger the problem was becoming, the more frustrated she was getting, and the more uncomfortable she was feeling about having the accountability discussion.
A great way to start to deal with this discomfort is to acknowledge your inner resistanceto holding people accountable which is causing the delay in dealing with the problem. It takes courage to own your own emotional needs. Underneath the surface your brain may be processing some pretty intense emotions this situation activates such as concerns about your own loss of control over a situation, a fear of losing connection with someone you care about, or fear of feeling like a failure at being an effective leader.
Rather than side step these emotions, take a look at them. Resistance or tension around taking action is the brain’s way of helping inform of us an emotional need we have. The more we can get in touch with that need, the more we can examine the rational basis for it, and do something to help satisfy this need.
As in the case with this CEO, confronting a high achiever who has missed deadlines activates her inner story about her own fear of failure as a leader and instills fear of an accountability conversation sending a message to an employee she values that they have failed. Knowing herself and the emotional personality patterns she has can be a big step toward not being constrained by the limiting beliefs associated with these stories she tells herself.
Sidenote: I use the Enneagram personality system to help leaders identify their inner motivations, emotional needs and stories they tell themselves about their approach to accountability. It is a fantastic accelerator of self awareness.
- EXPLORE MULTIPLE REALITIES. GET REAL.
Once we identify our emotional needs, the next step is to examine the meaning of the stories we are telling ourselves that are causing tension and reticence to act. Some examples this CEO could use to expand her perspective include:
- What assumptions am I making about me? Is my effectiveness determined by the fact I have an employee who misses deadlines or more about my ability to deal with this challenge constructively?
- What assumptions am I making about the person missing the deadlines? Is it true that someone who is a high achiever will reject me or this company by my approaching them about the deadlines they missed?
- Is it possible to have a conversation that can be used to help this person develop stronger skills in managing deadlines?
- What part do I play? Is this situation is a good reason to look at the systems we have in place for clarifying expectations and a plan for when people miss their targets including the consequences they will experience?
- What don’t I know yet? Is there more going on with this employee than I know now that is contributing to their inability to meet deadlines?
After reflecting on this series of questions, there is likely a new option will emerge or start to “feel right,” that will shape the way you approach taking action.
- GET GOING.
Even after doing all of this inner work, you may still feel uncomfortable about giving constructive feedback. However, after reflecting on what is causing you stress about having the discussion, then facing your own inner stories and emotional needs, you will be ready to have a coherent discussion with this employee about what is going on with missing deadlines and find a way to solve this. Some benefits to doing your own inner work are:
- You will be in a position to use a positive tone vs harsh tone when you deliver your feedback
- You will be more inclined to use the conversation to be supportive vs. punitive
- You will be more motivated to have the conversation than dreading it
- You will make it easier to do this the next time because you are building new habits
- You will see your role as a driver of accountability as a gift that allows you to nurture potential in others vs. a burden that goes along with being a leader
There are many models for giving feedback and I will cover those in future blogs, but the first order of business is to get your own emotions in check to foster a culture of accountability.Subscribe to the “Inner Ring” blog
Diane Ring owns Ring Results, an Austin, TX based leadership development and executive coaching firm serving top executives, managers, technical professionals and high potential talent from small, start up businesses to publically traded Fortune 1000 companies. She has served individuals and organizations for 20 years to fulfill their potential through better understanding of emotional intelligence and connecting behavioral and neuroscientific knowledge with leadership development and career management.
Diane is an MSU alum from 1982 with majors in Employment Relations and Psychology, and has been in perpetual learning since and holds numerous certifications. She combines deep self-exploration with tangible tools to make sense of navigating careers in today’s “new normal” business world of accelerated volatility, uncertainty, and complexity. For more information about Diane, including contact information, CLICK HERE